It is impossible to be perfect (whatever that means) all the time. We all make mistakes because we simply cannot always know what the right thing to do is. Admitting that you make mistakes will increase your resilience. Sometimes even powerful leaders are unable or unwilling to admit their mistakes, which weakens their position in the long run. Find the value in your imperfect ways and strive for excellence instead of perfection. It all begins when you take full responsibility for your situation to grow exponentially.
Get curious about the role you play in every part of your life. Even if someone wronged you, get curious about your behavior and reaction. You never have to blame yourself. Simply look at the situation so that you can learn how you want to behave in the future.
As mentioned, there isn’t much in this world that you have the power to control. Understanding that fact will provide freedom from a lot of stress.
Just as we have the power to control our reactions to situations, we also have the power to control the next action we take.
If you’re able to take a step back and look at a situation objectively, you’ll be able to use the information you gain to inform your next steps. It takes humility to look at a situation and see what you could do differently.
Every situation is an opportunity to learn more about yourself. If you can look at yourself while taking a step back to understand with compassion, you’ll be able to make wise, well-informed decisions in the future.
Take Ownership of Your Actions
Taking responsibility for your part of your situations can help you take charge of your life. When you’re able to look at your life and take a look at your role in it, you can realize your power to overcome.
Begin by getting curious about the situation. For example, if you were fired from your job, you might ask, “Was there anything I could have done differently?” or “What can I learn from this to help me in my next job?”
Remember to have a totally non-judgmental attitude. If you’re criticizing yourself, you’re not taking responsibility but, instead, digging yourself further into the challenge.
You don’t have to think that everything is your fault. Most of the time, it isn’t. However, it will strengthen your resilience to take an honest look at your part in your circumstance.
Are there people you need to apologize to?
Sometimes taking ownership for your actions can be difficult. It’s important to have humility, especially when you’re apologizing to others. Your ability to verbalize your wrongdoings will display your maturity and ability to emotionally regulate.
Resentment can hinder the ability to apologize. If you feel resentment toward anyone, you can take responsibility of your forgiveness process.
Take Full Responsibility and Make Changes
It’s difficult to understand exactly how to take responsibility for your own happiness. When things feel out of control and chaotic, it can seem even more difficult. There are a few ways you can really begin to implement changes that will last.
Begin by implementing consistent daily routines. Do the same things each morning that help you get prepared for your day. Include five minutes for a mindfulness exercise.
You can schedule your time in order to help you set boundaries and keep track of your personal growth.
Set reminders to go off throughout the day that will guide you back to the present moment. These reminders can help you to pause in the present moment and move forward from there. Maybe you’re in the middle of a crisis and a reminder goes off. This will remind you that you get to make your own decision.
Check in with yourself a few times a day to identify some emotions. By getting in the practice of identifying your emotions, you’ll be better able to take responsibility for them and make changes that meet your needs. When you can identify your emotions frequently, you’ll be better able to identify them in times of confusion and doubt.
Remember to see every moment as a learning opportunity. Continually ask yourself, “What am I learning from this?” Thinking about this will help you feel more empowered to make changes in your life because it will increase curiosity and self-confidence.
In case you’ve found just this post and need a refresher on the 8 skills you need to live your life with inner strength and mental toughness, here they are:
- Develop your understanding of resilience and mental toughness
- Enhance your emotional regulation skills so you are in control
- Take full responsibility for your situation to grow exponentially
- Build a solid and supportive community of like-minded individuals
- Practice gratitude and forgiveness for yourself and others in your life
- Strengthen your relationship with yourself with a morning routine
- Move your body throughout each day to keep blood flowing to your brain
- Challenge yourself regularly with new skills and projects
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